Ch-ch-changes are happening!


Ch-ch-changes are happening in my life right now!

It is exciting, maotic and crazy all at once… like I expect my life any other way!

My office is finally going to be more than a shoe box! I have been working hard since I started to help grow the company I work with and grow we have – doubled what was going on when I started! It’s exciting and a bit terrifying at the same time. Better office, more responsibilities and I am sure a bit more stress! But that is what life is all about right?! Personally I am excited!

My personal life is always so up in the air but I am in a happy place right now. In fact, it is nice to not have to worry about someone being upset with me for not being where they feel I need to be. Being accepted for who and what you are makes life easier to handle. Of course the boy always accepts me for me, no matter what. That is a beautiful thing to know that someone loves you no matter what and that it is an unconditional love. I have wonderful family and friends both near and far away. I miss those who aren’t as close, but we know we have each others backs when needed even if we can’t physically be there for each other.

Yes I can feel the changes in the air and I see the changes on the horizon.

All I can say is Keep Hope Alive and bring it on!

Change, be it good or bad, is going to happen. It’s all in how you deal with it. I chose to go into the day with hope, happiness and of course my own fabulously graceless style!

Have a beautiful day!

Things to not do on an interview… yes, you lady with the club clothes on!


I have been doing interviews for several weeks where I work.

I do an extensive phone interview with most applicants and go with my gut feeling. For the most part, it has served me well finding folks that fit the needs of certain clients and others who will be a great fit for our team. I am human. I make mistakes in my “gut feelings” sometimes. Other times, I am just in shock at some of the things I have heard and seen from ladies applying for jobs.

I am not even close to being a fashion diva. Diva maybe a bit, but fashion is not my thing. I am often thrilled when someone compliments me on whatever I have thrown together. I try to look decent as I am working with clients and potential clients as well as marketing my company to the public. I am always clean and somewhat put together. Sometimes I have crazy hair and my makeup may not be perfect. I am just impressed that I care enough to put on makeup for a job!

With that said I realized some people have no clue when it comes to applying for employment. No matter what field you are in, there are just certain things that you may want to consider when going in to fill out an application.

As the majority of the applicants have been female, I am often thrown for a loop when meeting people at the office by their appearance

Please know I am not “judging” but am responding to what I have seen repeatedly. Some of it I can’t un-see and my retinas still burn.

I don’t know your situation, you finances or your beliefs.

I do know that some of you are actually trying to better yourself and get a job.

However there are others who like to say they are trying to better themselves and get a job but I question whether they really mean it all the time or just in the moment.

I have spoken to several folks on the phone that is all enthusiastic and open and wanting to work. We sometimes talk longer if we get on a common thread. These people I put little stars by their names and notes of what we discussed. I tell them when they come into the office we can further discuss, but that it is just mostly paperwork and a face to face to see if we feel like it’s a fit for both of us.

I may not be able to put someone to work straight away, but having good people on your team is key to being able to provide the service my clients need.

I always have some to reschedule and also no calls/no shows. Thanks to those who wasted my time. If you can’t bother to at least call, I can’t bother to reschedule. You better have a good reason as to why you left me hanging.

I get ladies who come in and look like they are going out to a club. It’s 10:30 in the morning and I really don’t know too many clubs open at that time. You do look nice and maybe if it was a late afternoon interview and you were going out, but no. You tell me how you use to work at the bank or in retail and miss getting dressed up to go to work. Yes, I do ask theme where they worked as I can’t help but wonder who dresses like this to go to work in the morning.

I actually had a lady show up with her husband in tow who was acting like her manager, right down to filling out her application. She was dressed like she was going out with tons of jewelry, coat purse and dress that was way too short for that time of the morning. All I could think was, “Did I really make an appointment with this person? Why is he here and for the love of Pete why is he answering the questions I am asking her?” There were no stars by her name after the interview!

Then there are those who clearly do not wear makeup on a regular basis. I get it as the stuff can be confusing to apply. I once ordered the spray on makeup from the home shopping network but was wise enough to only attempt it with a friend when we weren’t going anywhere. It totally sucked by the way and I don’t like any sprays around my face. It was a dumb idea I realize. But your day of interview is not the time to try smoky eyes and that new foundation that looks as if it could be scrapped off with a spoon.

Also, no more tight clothes that show every curve you have. For that matter, all your nooks and crannies too. Just stop. You cannot think that looks professional in any way. Not even business casual can cover whatever skin tight ensemble you have tossed together.

I know the messy hair, don’t care thing is in too. My “sleek” ponytail as you called it is me running late and not wanting to deal with the medusa like substance on my head. But my hair is clean and I am not sporting the laid back, nearly pajama style that you are. I get we wear scrubs to the job and they are fine for interviews, scrubs Not pajamas. Also, you are not Kate Moss and the “messy” look makes you appear that you just got out of bed and made zero effort to even look as though you attempted to do anything with your clothes and hair.

I wonder if I am out of line even writing this, but I know I am not alone in feeling this way.

Even wearing jeans with a nice top and being clean, and easy on the perfume, is so much better than club clothes, tight clothes and pajamas!

I am just trying to help out my fellow females.

It isn’t like I won’t hire someone for how they are dressed. I won’t hire someone who doesn’t think about the job they are interviewing for and acting completely crazy once they get in front of me. This isn’t the “being nervous” for the interview crazy either. I do not want to know your life story from DNA up, your menstrual cycle and every lover you ever had. I may laugh with you, but I am marking up “tells too much personal info and has drama she shares” on my paperwork. Those topics have nothing to do with the job you are applying for.

We all make fashion faux pas; trust me I make them weekly! But when I work I am professional. I am not look like the magazine fashionista, but I can guarantee I look clean and put together for the most part!

Have you ever had to do crazy interviews with people like this? Have you ever been this person?

Sometimes it’s hard, but I always keep hope alive!

Finding my groove again


I have recently started a new job and I love it. However, after not working full time for about a year, I am struggling to get back into some sort of groove. I knew it would be challenging, but I didn’t know it would be quite this hard.

On the plus side, I truly love what I am doing. I have an awesome, understanding boss and it is very close to home. I do have to drive across town some, but it is totally worth it because I believe in our mission and I love helping people. I feel like I actually have a career again, something I did not have with my last full time job. I am making about half of what I made, but I have opportunity for advancement and know I can help grow the company. People need the services we provide, and having been on both sides of the field, I have a broader and understand the needs of both the clients and the caregivers. Yes, I need the money but I know that I don’t want to just work for more money and be completely miserable. It isn’t worth it and it isn’t fair to me or mine.

My biggest challenge has been managing my time so that I am still fully there for the boy and keeping up with my blog on a daily basis. The first is easy in some ways. I will always be there for him I just have to figure out how I can rearrange things so we can continue to do things together in shorter amounts of time.

I can’t stop writing; I think a part of me would be lost without my blog. It’s funny how something I started on the side has grown into something that fills me up.

I am already loosing time with friends and family because my free time is not as abundant as it once was. Even when I had more free time, I was cramming it so full of things that I was not getting things done. Then I get stressed and sick and then nothing gets done.

So in a way going back to full time work is forcing me to be better with my time management. I am nowhere close but I am getting there. Keep hope alive! It’s the best motto for me.

We often get so caught up in our own lives and our own needs, in what we think is important, that we forget those things that matter most. We forget to look at life from a different perspective. It isn’t always easy and it is easier to rationalize to ourselves that the way we are doing/seeing something is the best course. But if we look closely and examine it, we realize that we are doing what is best for us or easier for us or so we think. It is hard to think otherwise. It is easy to be selfish and blame life or circumstances for why we can’t follow through or be there for someone. Sometimes it is the truth. Other times it is an excuse because we don’t want to look too hard at the things that really matter. It can be depressing.

Life is so precious. We never know how much time we have. I know I don’t want to waste another second on regrets. I have too many as it is. I work to turn my regrets into life learning experiences. Not all of them are but I am learning that sometimes I can find a small morsel that I can learn from. I do my best to not repeat the things that cause the regret in the first place.

So today I am moving forward with hope and positive thoughts. I am going to banish the negativity and not be as hard on myself. I can be my own worst critic.

As one of my wonderfully, fabulously close friend says, “It’s a great day to be alive!” It is. No matter what crazy life thing happens, we woke up alive. We may have aches and pains, there may be fear or drama or things out of our control, but we can control how we react to people, places and situations.

Choose to be positive. Choose to keep hope alive. Choose life.

I hope you all have a fabulously wonderful Wednesday.

Much hope, happiness and positive thoughts,

Lady Maos

 

 

Keeping hope alive and struggling to get by on this Fabulous Wednesday


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It seems like every day there is something new and challenging. Whether it’s the garage door breaking, a new client, another bill you had no idea it was going to happen or your favorite shoes breaking there is always a challenge.

Like everyone else I am just struggling to get by. However, my mantra of Keep Hope Alive really does help me get through even in the worst of moments. That and “this too shall pass”. I also think karma can be much too slow but I know better than to mettle in the fates of the universe! Can I get an amen?!

If you are reading this post, and I thank you if you are, then you are Alive and you made it to see another morning! WhoooWhoo!

You made it to Wednesday, the middle of the “work” week. Like the middle child, the middle of the work week sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. But like the middle child, Wednesday’s have a lot to offer. Hope that you are almost to the weekend. A night for special events, classes, sports or church. Sometimes you think that Wednesday will be predictable, for example, get up, take the child to school, go to work, run errands, get child, get dinner, go to karate, come home and do your nightly thing.

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Life is anything but predictable!

I am blessed to work with some amazing people. On Wednesday’s normally Miss Candy and I would run errands, but she has joined a pool and now we go swimming on Wednesday’s. She has Parkinson’s but it does not have her. She was thrilled I was willing to go with her as in the water, her disease does not show and she can move around like a “normal” person. Sometimes it is the little things in life that make a day, a week or a month all that much sweeter. We are still working on the logistics and how we feel after, but I love that it was tossed into my mix. Now I get to work and exercise, and I didn’t even cringe when I typed that word, all at the same time and I love it! It helps both of us. I do stretches while walking along side of her in the pool. I put her wheelchair to the side and for about 20 -30 minutes it is like she doesn’t have a disease that ties her to a chair like she does when she’s not in the pool.

Plus Wednesday’s are karate day for the boy and we love some karate. I was a bit hesitant at first as I wasn’t sure how it would work, his dad has him every other Wednesday, but it is fabulous! I go every week, with the exception being after 3 medical procedures, and am astounded in the changes in him. He is more focused and learning so well. Of course there are times when he stares at himself in the big mirror and forgets he is in class, but he is reminded and at once is back into the moment. Seriously there is a whole bunch of cuteness with a classroom full of 4-7 year olds doing karate, yelling “Yes Mam!”, “Yes Sir!” and “Ki-yah!” as loud as they can! Everyone is treated as equals and some are at different stages but they all work together. It is a beautiful thing to watch!

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I hope that whatever you do, whatever happens that you get to enjoy something beautiful today. Whatever that may be for you.

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Always remember to Keep Hope Alive!

Stay Fabulous and Graceless My Friends!

New week and new beginnings… Hello Monday!


Hello my fabulous friends and welcome to the beginning of the week!

I am keeping hope alive for a good week in my graceless world!

I survived Chuck E Cheese at 10 AM on a Saturday! I am impressed and proud! Of course I had several fabulous humans helping me pull it off so shout out to woocy, rex & R for having my back! And it was so fun with all the kids and of course us big kids!

I basically got about 3.5 hours of sleep as my Atl girl didn’t get in til late so we had to chat til I was falling over, barely able to keep my eyes open but trying! I was decorating the cake with my woocy at 11 so being up at 2 was nothing. Ha!

I am realizing that while I may be fabulously graceless I need my beauty sleep, and not for beauty but just so that I may crawl forth from my bed and go out and be productive!

But I kept hope alive and I survived and had a blast!

Hearing my alarm clock going off today I am pushing for the “get on up and get moving” versus “just 5, 10, 20 more minutes….. crap I am late!” of my semi-normalness.

I am going for it’s going to be a Good Monday. Not just decent or making it through but I am aiming high for a Good Monday… maybe even excellent! You never know what life holds so I am going to keep my hope alive!

Good things are happening. I can feel it! I can see things moving on that I wasn’t sure what to do or what move to make. Just keep hope alive and do the right thing and it will work out!!

I am off to work, knit, write, get things done, be with the boy and have a Fabulous Monday!

Take care my friends and stay fabulous!

The Mid-Week Hustle


Welcome to the midweek hustle!

If you’re reading this, you’re still breathing so be happy!

You may be going through a rough patch, hell, it may be a rough month/year but you are still on this planet breathing in and out, so be grateful.

So many have not made it this far.

I know personally it has been a challenging week for me.

I have been blessed to have wonderful humans in my life to help drag me from the brink and take care of me. Even when I think “I’m fine” and I am being stubborn they seem to keep sticking around.

I spent part of my weekend with my girls in Atlanta and oh how I needed it!

We didn’t “do” much, we did have a birthday party for a dear friend, but as far as getting out and doing things, no that didn’t happen other than dinner one night.

I didn’t go to sleep before 3:00 AM either night I was there!

I wish I could say I was up dancing and partying, however since I was up late 2 nights, anyone that knows me knows that isn’t possible!

I did, however, enjoy awesome, silly conversations with my friends, covering every topic we could think up! From our fashion faux pas, relationship, politics to what were are planning to eat, we discussed it all. We laughed until we cried and kept going. Let’s just say I was not an early riser those days!

I spent the rest of my child free time working, cleaning and with my someone special. We will see where it leads but I have a lot of hope this time around!

The best part of today is my boy comes home!

I have missed that little booger!

He’s went for his final week with his dad and grandparents and I know he had fun as I got updates, but golly gee do I miss him when he is gone.

Also today will be crazy hustle as early scheduling for work and then karate with my boy, then we again go to our happy place at the beach. Another fun family vacation! I wish I had my cousins and brother, sister-in-law and nephew going too as it is a lot of fun with so many helping hands, but we will have fun no matter what.

So I wish to end this on a happy, full of hope kind of note.

Always remember to Keep Hope Alive!

Stay fabulous my graceless friends!

Lady Maos