This has been one of those wild, non-stop, emotionally charged, deliriously happy, historic, filled with hope exhausting days!
Technically it is now Saturday but since I haven’t been to sleep yet it’s still Friday night for me ha!
My morning started off a bit crazier than I would prefer, but I felt it in my soul it would be awesome. It was Friday, I was happy, the boy and I had/have plans for our weekend so all is good.
Then I am shopping for a few items in the local store and am inquiring about a movie I am looking to purchase for the boy (James and the Giant Peach – a classic). The young man helping me is 20 and we are discussing old school toys which are still awesome and he was impressed I shared with my son those toys, movies and I was just being me when I get The Text “SCOTUS rules marriage bans unconstitutional, marriage equality for all!
I literally shouted, “WhooooWhoo” out loud and started getting happy tears and dancing….then remembered I was talking to this really nice dude and so I tell him why, being kind of gentle with my words because I don’t want a confrontation, though you can tell he was open minded and whatever I had learned, it just made me happy. He looks at me a minute and tells me, “You are so cool I wish you were my mom…I hope that doesn’t sound creepy!” I just hugged him!
First of all let me say what this means to me.
My child will be able to grow up in a world I did not have.
Equality. For Real.
When I was a child it was a “sin” for couples of different races to marry. I never understood this and always went to my daddy with these kinds of questions. I understood he didn’t always agree with people, but he was one of the most honest, compassionate, genuine and fair people I have ever known. He cared for everyone involved in a situation.
This was a subject he and I had discussed several times together.
Coming from the deep south where it’s a “sin” just to be different, I valued his opinion and he was very respected both in his personal and his business life.
I was always questioning things, rooting for the underdog and generally trying to figure out why people couldn’t accept others for who they were.
He told me the fight for gays and marriage equality was very much like the civil rights movement in the 60’s and 70’s.
He would know. He stood up for what was right and believed in those who could make a difference and do a good job no matter the color of their skin. He fought to make the industry in which he worked here in Alabama equal across the board. Black, white, male, female. We were all equal in his eyes.
Though he did not agree with the gay lifestyle per se, he did understand their need to be equal and as human beings they deserved the same “luxuries” we are all given.
He had strong Christian values and told me “He wasn’t God and it wasn’t his place to judge.”
This is why I love and miss my daddy every day.
I think he would be proud that I am standing up for what I believe in.
That I choose to teach my son ALL Human Beings are Equal finally in the eyes of the law.
I have always taught him, and continue to do so, that everyone of us are HUMAN. We are all the same creatures who have different faces and personalities. You may not like everyone, you may not agree with everyone, but you need to respect everyone from a human standpoint.
We haven’t gotten into some people you just have to step away from yet!
I KNOW there is still a long road ahead.
I know there are battles to be fought.
I know, and it saddens me, that some people will resort to violence and hatred to get their point across. Needlessly.
However I Never thought I would see this ruling, this historic moment in history!
Happiness fills my soul for so many friends and a long battle finally coming to an end allowing anyone to marry the one they truly love.
It gives me hope to think of our future of more tolerance.
That my son will hopefully know less hate and have more compassion for others.
He doesn’t see “color” unless he’s referring to “my skin is white or golden when I get sun. Mommy’s skin is light brown but when she gets sun she gets browner but not as brown as my friend Nicolas at school he is brown brown.” It is only a description of his friends and people. I will teach him no different because it is beautiful and real the way he sees the world now.
Yes happiness, history and hope.
It does my soul good to feel all three in a single day!
Have a fabulously graceless Saturday!
I will be enjoying ribs and home cooking with friends this evening! All in happiness!