Be Yourself

Be yourself

How many times have you heard that said? Be Yourself.

We teach it and preach it to our kids and anyone else that will listen.

Be tolerant of others.

Show compassion.

Treat others as you want to be treated.

Yet more and more I see so many adults judging others going against what they “teach” their children and say in front of others.

They tell them to be kind, to share, to not bully.

Yet they do the exact thing they teach against if it goes against their “beliefs” or “way of thinking”.

This is something I think of quite often as the mother of a 4 almost 5 year old son.

I am blessed to have so many friends! I have friends of all ages and walks of life. I have friends from many different ethnic backgrounds, friends who practice different religions and friends who are gay, lesbian, Trans & bi.

Am I supposed to tell him that the ones who don’t look or act like the majority of people he is around are wrong or their life means less than his?

Am I expected to lie and tell him “it’s wrong” when I don’t see it as wrong but much of society does?

I am supposed to “hide” him from those who are different than he is by keeping him sheltered and home all of his young life, so that when he becomes a teenager or young adult he is appalled at the world and mad at me for not letting him know how life truly is?

Am I expected to tell him he can’t “be friends” with another human being because society doesn’t approve?

I Hope that’s not what’s expected of me because I WON’T DO IT.

I will not teach my son that any one person’s life matters over another. That someone is less than him because of their color, their beliefs, their gender or their personal preferences in whom they chose to love.

We hover over our children to protect them yet we do them more harm by tearing down another person for their beliefs and who they are as a human being.

When I tell him to be himself I want him to find who he is.

I don’t want to map his life out.

That isn’t my job as a parent.

My job is to love, nourish, protect, care, guide, teach and help him find out who he is and how to be the person he wants to be.

I know I am still in the some-what “easy” years before he reaches the age of understanding and sees for himself how the world really is, however I can still teach him compassion, caring, acceptance and how to value others.

Unfortunately the world will show him racism, hate, bullying along with a host of other things that scare the crap out of me.

If I do my job right, he will be able to navigate through that minefield and come out a better person.

I have never shared a link in a post before but I was researching some things and came across an article and video of how kids react to Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner. #HatchKids


 If we are really, really lucky maybe by the time my son grows up, maybe the hate, fear and misunderstandings won’t be as bad.

After all, I always say Keep Hope Alive!

Happy Wednesday My Fabulously Graceless Friends!



3 thoughts on “Be Yourself

  1. When I woke up this morning to read about the shooting at Mother Emanuel AME Church ( a historical black church) in Charleston last night and the needless deaths that occurred, I was reminded of this article. The shooter was a 21 year old white boy with patches on his jacket indicating he was a white supremacist. He was described as a soft spoken young man etc, so people are wondering how could this happen? For starters I’m guessing it started at HOME, because it was his father who gave him a .45 caliber pistol for his most recent b’day. Dylann Storm Roof shot and killed 9 innocent people including the church’s pastor last night as they were peacefully praying to their God. Don’t just TEACH your children, SHOW your children how to love, have compassion and tolerance for others different than them. Children learn by EXAMPLE!!!! “Monkey see, Monkey do”, because how many times have we let our parents words go in one ear and out the other, no matter the subject matter! Younger children especially learn by what they see, and by what goes on around them. Please people “Teach Your Children Well”. Thank you for allowing my wordy rant. Tomorrow’s future starts with today’s youth!!

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    1. As I am still reading and learning about this horrible tragedy I have to wonder if he wasn’t “off” in some way as well.
      Talking to a good friend today about it we feel like there is more than just a “hate crime” though that looks like it will play out, but also some sort of mental issue that maybe was never addressed.
      It is just so sad that there was the point where he crossed that line and cut their mortal coil as if it was his right.
      I do agree that I have to wonder how his upbringing was.
      Sometimes it’s not the parents fault, however we can’t help place the blame there.
      I just pray for all the families and the victims family and for this boy.
      And yes, people, please “Teach your children well.”
      Don’t preach hate of Any kind to them.
      No one life is more valuable than another.

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