How many times have you heard that said? Be Yourself.
We teach it and preach it to our kids and anyone else that will listen.
Be tolerant of others.
Treat others as you want to be treated.
Yet more and more I see so many adults judging others going against what they “teach” their children and say in front of others.
They tell them to be kind, to share, to not bully.
Yet they do the exact thing they teach against if it goes against their “beliefs” or “way of thinking”.
This is something I think of quite often as the mother of a 4 almost 5 year old son.
I am blessed to have so many friends! I have friends of all ages and walks of life. I have friends from many different ethnic backgrounds, friends who practice different religions and friends who are gay, lesbian, Trans & bi.
Am I supposed to tell him that the ones who don’t look or act like the majority of people he is around are wrong or their life means less than his?
Am I expected to lie and tell him “it’s wrong” when I don’t see it as wrong but much of society does?
I am supposed to “hide” him from those who are different than he is by keeping him sheltered and home all of his young life, so that when he becomes a teenager or young adult he is appalled at the world and mad at me for not letting him know how life truly is?
Am I expected to tell him he can’t “be friends” with another human being because society doesn’t approve?
I Hope that’s not what’s expected of me because I WON’T DO IT.
I will not teach my son that any one person’s life matters over another. That someone is less than him because of their color, their beliefs, their gender or their personal preferences in whom they chose to love.
We hover over our children to protect them yet we do them more harm by tearing down another person for their beliefs and who they are as a human being.
When I tell him to be himself I want him to find who he is.
I don’t want to map his life out.
That isn’t my job as a parent.
My job is to love, nourish, protect, care, guide, teach and help him find out who he is and how to be the person he wants to be.
I know I am still in the some-what “easy” years before he reaches the age of understanding and sees for himself how the world really is, however I can still teach him compassion, caring, acceptance and how to value others.
Unfortunately the world will show him racism, hate, bullying along with a host of other things that scare the crap out of me.
If I do my job right, he will be able to navigate through that minefield and come out a better person.
I have never shared a link in a post before but I was researching some things and came across an article and video of how kids react to Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner. #HatchKids
If we are really, really lucky maybe by the time my son grows up, maybe the hate, fear and misunderstandings won’t be as bad.
After all, I always say Keep Hope Alive!
Happy Wednesday My Fabulously Graceless Friends!