In my grade school yearbook there was a quote, “Rainy days and Mondays always get me down.”
I have thought of that quote often in my life, and heck to be honest, oftentimes agree with it!
However, I don’t think going into my day thinking, “I will be down because it’s raining or Monday” is isn’t healthy.
In fact, I question why it was put into a school yearbook because looking back, it’s kind of a negative quote. I mean it would be fine to be said by a cartoon character, but this was grade school as in K-6!
I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately and working to figure out some semblance of what I truly need to be doing that I am not.
I have learned that since I don’t have a “normal” 9-5 job I take on way more than I can get done because I think I don’t have the same time constraints.
I will think I can somehow get more done and end up running around in circles getting only 2 of 10 items done that need to get done!
There are the things that I always get done, dinner for the boy, bath, etc. but then there are things I have let slip through the cracks like getting the closets cleaned out and getting rid of clothes and toys that are no longer needed. (I “started” the clothes and toy project many months ago! Nowhere close to finished!)
One of my friends who works from home suggested I start a list.
Now those that know me know this is ironic because Lists are my thing!
I do write them for things I need to get done, besides the grocery list, and do get things check off.
However I haven’t been doing a “work” list and I am happy to say I actually outlined and started one for this upcoming week.
It’s hard to balance working for yourself, helping others, volunteering and of course raising my son.
Often I will think I can move one project to another day and then I forget that I moved it and the project doesn’t get done. Clothes and toys are a fine example!
Trying to line up my priorities has been chaotic and at times painful.
I am a people pleaser. Sometimes to my detriment.
Recently, I was told I waste too much time on my writing, my child and taking care of others.
That statement stopped me in my tracks though.
Saying I “waste too much time” on my child will get you a one way ticket to “you need to go. Now. Far away from me.”
As far as my writing and taking care of others, well, the same person told me that too. I don’t want or need that type of negativity in my life.
Looking back I think they were jealous that I spent time other than with them and so they set out to say hurtful things to me.
Why do we feel the need to tear others down when we don’t get what we want?
It seems far more common these days than in the past.
We live in a more fast paced and disposable society.
People expect everything “right now” and “made to order” and if something or someone isn’t how they perceive it should be it is immediately “wrong” and needs to be “fixed” and they should be “compensated” for their time.
What about my time?
I remember being taught “patience is a virtue” and it’s a hard one believe me!
I’m trying to teach my 4 almost 5 year old son this now.
And kids don’t always have a lot of patience at times!
Lately he seems to be getting it though.
Last week we were having dinner and I realized I was supposed to have a conference call, was trying to wrap up dinner, get him in the tub and ready for bed and I got a bit snappy with him. “Hurry up we have a schedule to follow.”
“Calm down. Breathe mommy. Is it worth it for you to get so upset?”
Wow. Having a 4 year old genuinely ask you the same question I have asked him took me off guard.
I did calm down and breathe. I told him he was right and it wasn’t worth it to get upset and be snappy to him and apologized. He replied with, “It’s ok mama, you’re always doing stuff for me and everyone else and making sure I’m ok, someone has to take care of you too and I am going to do that.”
Talk about making me tear up!
Maybe I am getting this parenting thing.
I know I will inevitably make mistakes, but I am praying that I can keep on with this progress of teaching him to be a good human being.
Kids learn by example so I must be doing a decent job!
So Monday, whatever you throw my way, I will conquer and succeed!
For all of the mistakes, screw ups and mishaps I make, I seem to be doing something right!
For me it’s one of the most important “something’s” I can do!
I chose to take Monday as a new slate, a fresh start and move forward… Always keepin’ hope alive!
Have a fantastically fabulous Monday my friends!
How do you look at Monday’s? I’m curious as to how others face a new week!